Our sweet little Princess is starting to ask questions about adoption. She really doesn’t use the word “adoption” because honestly, we’ve never made a big deal out of it.
We have always talked about adoption around her, but could only feed information to her as she could understand.
A couple of years ago I had a little book created about her adoption story. She was NOT interested. Ha. Time passed and I tried to talk to her about adoption again and I shared this carefully thought-out speech and she said, “Mommy, do we have any jelly beans?”
Now that she is 4 1/2, she understands that she grew in someone’s tummy, then God brought her to Mommy and Daddy. I can still remember the day she asked about the time she was in my tummy. God ALONE kept me from crying. I had a big smile on my face and shared how I would have given anything to have carried her in my tummy, but God had another plan.
She has asked me a couple of times out of the blue about this person who carried her in her tummy. I finally explained yesterday that she is called her birth mother. She didn’t quite “get it” until I said, “Ok, you know how our cows give birth? Well, this woman carried you in her tummy and gave birth to you. That is why she is called a birth mother.” I then went through my friend’s family to explain how 3 of her children came to her because their birth mother died and the family couldn’t take care of them. I shared how another birth mother was too young. My little one said, “Is my birth mother alive?” I said, “Oh yes Honey. She lives in _________ and I’m sure she thinks about you all of the time.” She said, “And her name is funny isn’t it?” as we said her name again together (it is a very different name). Then I reassured her that she has been with Mommy and Daddy since birth and that God placed her with us. She smiled and moved on to another conversation.
It hurts. I would love nothing more for my daughter to have grown in my womb so that she wouldn’t have to face these question and answer sessions.
I am thankful that we had such a supernatural experience with our situation. God gave us the date of conception a month before she was even conceived. Before she was conceived, God had destined for her to be in our arms. Of course, 
with each adoption, God knows, God plans. What happens that God doesn’t already see? NOTHING.
My husband and I love our daughter more than words can say. I pray we will always have the words to answer her little “heart-questions” … words that speak truth but are so bathed in love that no sting or dart will come near her.
Thanks for listening. God is faithful and He has mighty plans for our little one. I have no doubt that He will continue to give us words to speak LIFE, HOPE, JOY, and SECURITY into our child.
To our Princess: You are a mighty young lady in the Kingdom of God. You have such an anointing on your life and you will lead many into healing and freedom. Daddy and I are excited about your future because we see the favor that already rests upon you. People are drawn to you little Princess. Your smile lights up a room and changes the atmosphere. You will never know how much we love you and how very proud you make us. We are honored and blessed to be your parents. We love you – always.
What a beautiful letter to your daughter. I always love to see her smiling face. God bless all of you.
Precious!! She is so lucky to have you and Boaz as her parents just as y'all are lucky to have her. God's plan is perfect and I believe that with all my heart.
Oh how precious! Many blessings to you and your sweet family. May God grant you the right answers to all of her questions. Thank you for sharing your heart with us my friend!
That was so beautiful. Thank you for sharing! I know you may hear this alot, but adoptive mothers are even more so special then the ones who have given birth. Yes I have birthed my three kids, but YOU were chosen just as I was…. God had a special plan just for you! HE is so amazing!
Wow Beth, that was just so good. You're the blessing to her that she is to you.
This blessed my heart beyond words. What a treasure you are to your daughter…just as she is to you!
No child could be loved more than Princess is loved by you and your hubby. Praising God for the blessing you are to each other! 🙂
that was beautiful Beth. I love how God works in our lives. I'm so glad he brought your little princess into yours! <3
The three of you are blessed indeed!
Thank you Sis for sharing such a tender and private moment. You handled the situation in such a Godly and kind, gentle manner. You are an awesome Mom!!! I know you've been blessed by your Princess, but what a MIGHTY blessing you are. (((hugs)))
Indeed, GOD has a perfect plan and HE knows best. Both of our girls are adopted.
Hugs, andrea
Sweet post, Beth! She is blessed to have found a good home with good parents!
Those of us who have been adopted into the Family of God have a unique view and appreciation of adoption that can only come from God. You have a wonderful looking family and I pray that God will watch over you and protect you all the days of your life.
Ron
A beautiful story. I was adopted at the age of 2, I am now 51. I know my birth mother and let me say I'm glad I was adopted.I've always known that I was adopted and that it was special.
My mom (adopted mom) had a poem that says this:
Not flesh of my flesh
nor bone of my bone
But still
miraculously my own.
Never forget
for a single minute~
You grew not
under my heart
but in it.
I don't know who wrote this but every time I read it, it makes me smile.
love and hugs~Tammy
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She is a cutie. What a blessing and how God orcastrated everything. Blessings to you!!
She is truly blessed to have you as parents. Praying for all of you. I love you sis.
You are such a wonderful mother…princess is so blessed to have you & hubs. I think you handled each question perfectly and in love…and that is all that matters is love!
SO touching! You have a very blessed family.
She is the precious blessing God gave to you, yet you both are too to her! God meant for you to be a family! God bless you sister…
My husband is adopted, and his parents were not very open with him at all. It was very secretive. Of course, your situation is different, but I think just being open with her whenever she asks will make it so much easier for both of you.
You are so blessed to have each other!!
That was so beautifully written, Beth. Your daughter is so very pretty. She is blessed to have a mommy that is willing to be so open with her about her adoption story:)
It would be an interesting conversation to have.
Happy blogoversary 🙂
Oh Beth you did a beautiful job of explaining to your little princess. God will continue to give you the words as they are needed. She will know that she is very loved and that God had a plan for her from the very beginning.
Much love to you!
I was filled with so much joy and enlightenment as I read your post. Mothers always seem to find the answers to the hardest questions that arise from their children. Adoption has been something that I have been passionately thinking about for years and as time comes near God has really placed on my heart the wanting and yearning for another child, mainly an adoptive child. My reservations have and are about the questions that the child will have for me and how my daughter will react, and what questions they both will have.
My concerns are mainly out of fear of the unknown, but knowing in my soul that this is what God has already ordain for me!
You have given me a little bit more hope and as I write this comment and listening to Martha Munizzi (Say the Name of Jesus) I am fightening back tears, because my prayers are being answered to give me a little bit of insight!
Blessing Be Unto You and Yours!
I think you answered her beautifully!! She may not have been destined by God to be carried in your womb but she was destined by God to be carried in your heart. She is a blessed little girl!